How to Pray (Effectively)

This post explains the basics of how to pray and how to pray effectively. I share how to pray according to the 5 W’s, hindrances to prayers and THE KEY to praying effectively.

5 W’s


Who is involved in prayer?: Prayer is intimate. It is means of communication between you and God. Therefore, the only people necessary in prayer is You and God. You speak to God and God speaks back, via His Word, The Holy Spirit, dreams, visions, other people, the sky.. we can not limit God- He is God. While prayer is intimate and is personal communication between you and God, there are also times for corporate prayer.

In Matthew 18:19-20 Jesus says “19 “Again[a] I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”

God loves unity. He loves corporate prayer and worship but that is not to say that He wants it to replace our intimate, one-on-one time with Him.


What do you need in prayer?: The only thing you need to bring with you in prayer is The Word of God. God is The Word. (1 John 1:1). So when we pray The Word or in accordance to The Word of God we are literally reminding God of who He is and what He said. Which God loves. He loves when we remind Him of His Word. He loves it when we find promises to stand on. It shows that we have faith in Him and that we believe His Word to be true. God can not go back on The Word, He can not go back on who He is. Therefore, praying The Word of God, in faith is a sure enough way to get Him to move on your behalf. The Holy Bible is the only thing we need in prayer, but since we are not always in a position to have a physical copy on hand it is important for us to hide The Word of God in hearts like Psalm 119:11 says so we can make reference to it even when we are praying on the go.


When should you pray?:

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. Mark 1:35


Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life Psalm 143:8


Satisfy us in the morning with your loyal love! Then we will shout for joy and be happy all our days! Psalm 90:14


It is clear that God wants us to meet Him first thing in the morning. God is a God of order and principal. He wants us to seek Him first and His righteousness so that He may add all things unto us. A special confidence comes when we seek God and His wisdom early in the morning before we get our day started. Psalm 5:3 says, In the morning, LORD, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. Starting your day with the one who created it and controls it, I believe, is the best way to go.  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 also tells us that God wants us to pray without ceasing. Which means, after we have our one-on-one, intimate time with God in the morning, He would like for us to continue to commune with Him all throughout the day. God wants to be in the details of our day and in close relationship with us. How do we pray all throughout the day? Internal dialogue. We internally dialogue with the Father, which can be done any time, any place, and with anybody around. Essentially God has called us to pray morning, noon, and night because He loves us just that much. You know when you first fall in love with someone and you want to talk to them all day…that’s God. Except He doesn’t switch up on us. Lol. God is constant- the same yesterday, today, and forevermore. He always has and always will want to be in continual communication with us.


Where should we pray?: Matthew 6:6 tells us God has called us to the closet. The closet allows for us to be intimate with God and shut out all outside distractions. God wants personal, quality, alone time with us. While, everyone may not have an actual closet to pray in, I believe the goal then is to find a place you can be alone with Him, a secret place where it is just you and God. (This place would be ideal for your morning dates with God). Considering we are called to pray without ceasing, all throughout the day -along with in the morning and that we can not stay in our closet all day, we are to become the closet as our day starts. Our morning dates with God, in the closet, train us in how we are suppose to internalize prayer throughout the day when we are on the go.


Why should we pray?:

Prayer ushers us into the presence of God,

Prayer allows us to be intimate with the Lover of our soul,

Prayer allows for us to be in relationship with The Lord while we are still down here on earth,

Prayer is our connection with God.

Prayer allows us to receive clarity, direction, understanding, all of the things we seek from Him; all of the things we need and desire.

Prayer moves things in the spiritual realm.

Prayer establishes things on earth.

God provides peace and reliquinshishes God’s Will in people’s lives, circumstances and situations through prayer.



How should we pray?: We should pray like Jesus. He gave us the ultimate model in Matthew chapter 6.


9 In this manner, therefore, pray:


Our Father in heaven,

Hallowed be Your name.

10 Your kingdom come.

Your will be done

On earth as it is in heaven.

11 Give us this day our daily bread.

12 And forgive us our debts,

As we forgive our debtors.

13 And do not lead us into temptation,

But deliver us from the evil one.

[c]For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.


Within the prayer, we notice that Jesus started by acknowledging The Lord and then praising His name (v9). He then went on to ask for God’s will to be done and established here on earth. He sought God’s will before His own (v 10). After doing so, Jesus asked for daily needs to be met (11). After asking for daily bread, the needs for the day, Jesus modeled the importance of forgiveness. Jesus modeled that we should ask the Lord to forgive us for all of the sins we have committed, as we forgive other people. (Matthew 6:12) tells us that our Father in Heaven will not forgive us if we do not forgive others. And if we are in prayer and remember a fault that someone else has against us, we should stop praying and ask for that person to forgive us. (Matthew 5:24). After checking our hearts and asking the Lord for forgiveness, Jesus modeled that we should ask the Lord to help keep us from temptation, provide a way of escape and ask to be delivered from all evil. And, Jesus ended the prayer by glorifying The Lord once more (v13).


Jesus was very straight to the point in His model prayer. He did not use excess words. Which shows us when we pray in faith, a lot of words are not required. (Matthew 6:7)


While Jesus has provided a perfect model of prayer for us to follow by first praising God, seeking God’s Will, asking for our daily needs to be met, forgiving others/seeking forgiveness, and asking for deliverance and provision we should still allot room for the Holy Spirit to have His way during prayer. For the Spirit may lead you to intercede (stand in the gap on someone else’s behalf), praise/worship a little longer than usual,  travail, or just be still. It is important for us to be sensitive to The Holy Spirit and not allow prayer to become a religious activity we do out of tradition, fear, or obligation.


Prayer is a privilege that we should partake in with joy. He has given us power to bind and loose things here on earth (Matthew 18:18), to establish His Kingdom here on earth (Matthew 6:10), and to enjoy sweet communion with Him while we are still here on earth. Prayer is a privilege that we should not pass up but take part in with pleasure and honor. It is an honor that the King of kings wants to partner with us in prayer and be in constant communication with us all throughout the day.   


Now as you may have noticed, all prayers do not get answered.

Below are

hindrances to praying effectively:



  • Failure to spend time in the Word of God



If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you want, and it will be done for you

John 15:7


The one who turns away his ear from hearing the law,even his prayer is an abomination

Proverbs 28:9


Psalm 119

  • Unrighteousness


Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent (sincere) prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

James 5:6


We are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. That means that we are righteous because of Jesus. When we believe in and accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior we are counted as righteous. While we are justified and pronounced as righteous because of Jesus, God has also calls us to walk in our righteousness. God has called us and enabled us to walk upright.

God is calling you to do what you now know is right. Back then you didn’t know what was right, however, now you do. God expects you to walk in the truth that has been revealed to you. And when He reveals another truth you will be expected and walk in that truth as well.

He has given us everything we need to walk upright, to be righteous. He has given us the Holy Spirit- God Himself living within us, leading us into all truth. He has given us The Word of God, to be a light unto your feet and a lamp unto our path.He has given you the spirit and self-control, a fruit of the Holy Spirit. It may need the exercised but we have it. God’s word says, that he will always provide a way of escape. AND, He has given us direct access to Him: through prayer. The Lord is given us everythingg we need to walk upright, and to walk in our righteousness. That’s good news!


  • Mistreating your wife



Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered


1 Peter 3:7


  • Unforgiveness

25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

Mark 11:25-26

  • Praying for selfish gain

may your kingdom come, may your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.

Matthew 6:10


He went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if this cup cannot be taken away unless I drink it, your will must be done.”

Matthew 26:42



  • Failure to ask due to a spirit of self-dependence



You desire and you do not have; you murder and envy and you cannot obtain; you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask;

James 4:2



  • Failure to endure, fainting under pressure



Then Jesus told them a parable to show them they should always pray and not lose heart.

Luke 18:1


But those who wait for the Lord’s help find renewed strength;they rise up as if they had eagles’ wings, they run without growing weary,they walk without getting tired.

Isaiah 40:31



  • Praying to be seen / impress others



And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 6 But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Matthew 6:5-6



  • Praying from religious zeal in the form of vain repetitions, cultic ritual and tradition (praying insincerely)



7 And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words.

Matthew 6:5-7


So they took a bull, as he had suggested, and prepared it. They invoked the name of Baal from morning until noon, saying, “Baal, answer us.” But there was no sound and no answer. They jumped around on the altar they had made. 27 At noon Elijah mocked them, “Yell louder! After all, he is a god; he may be deep in thought, or perhaps he stepped out for a moment or has taken a trip. Perhaps he is sleeping and needs to be awakened.” 28 So they yelled louder and, in accordance with their prescribed ritual, mutilated themselves with swords and spears until their bodies were covered with blood. 29 Throughout the afternoon they were in an ecstatic frenzy, but there was no sound, no answer, and no response.

1 Kings 18:26-29


For I can testify that they are zealous for God, but their zeal is not in line with the truth. 3 For ignoring the righteousness that comes from God, and seeking instead to establish their own righteousness, they did not submit to God’s righteousness.

Romans 10:2-3




And whatever you ask in prayer, if you believe, you will receive.

Matthew 21:22


And this is the confidence that we have before him: that whenever we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us in regard to whatever we ask, then we know that we have the requests that we have asked from him.

1 John 5:14-15


But if anyone is deficient in wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without reprimand, and it will be given to him. 6 But he must ask in faith without doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed around by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord,

James 1:5-7


Now do not be discouraged if you notice an area that may be hindering you from praying effectively. REJOICE. The Father is loving and kind and just to forgive you. Repent and turn to Him, He is waiting ready to remove the barrier.


I believe the KEY to praying effectively is FAITH.


But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. Hebrews 11:6


God says it is impossible to please Him without faith, and believing that He is-


You have to believe and have faith that He is-

forgiving, just to forgive you of all of your sins



a rewarder; of those who seek Him

a Good Father who wants to answers your prayers and is more than willing and able to do so.


If any man ask in faith, expecting to receive, he will receive what what he has asked for. Faith pleases God. And if you’re struggling, and feel as if you are lacking in faith, ask for a greater measure. The Word also says, that faith comes by hearing, and hearing the Word of God. That means your faith increases the more you hear The Word of God. Praying in accordance, and accompanied with The Word will also help increase your faith and help you pray believing that God hears you and will answer. Faith is necessary. However///, do not be mistaken, you do not need a lot of faith to please God. Faith the size of a mustard seed moves mountains. God simply wants you to believe and put your faith in Him, and in Him alone.


So let us pray in faith according to The Word and will of God and enjoy our sweet fellowship with the Lord.


*Important reminder*

I mentioned it earlier but I have to reiterate to emphasis the point.


Prayer is a two-way street. It is communication. It involves talking and listening. So make sure you allot time to hear and listen to The Father while in prayer. He will speak to and respond to anyone who has ears to hear, anyone who wants to hear from Him.


So, I love y’all, and may your time with the Lord be sweet and refreshing like never before. He welcomes all.


Loving y’all,

Now and forever,

Kendria Shanae


If you would like to except Jesus as your Lord and Savior it’s as easy as 1-2-3. It doesn’t have to involve other people. It’s a personal decision. Romans 10:9 says if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead you will be saved. So if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead you are saved! And all of Heaven is rejoices. Heaven rejoices when just one returns home. I love you… and so does God, I’m pretty sure He loves you more ☺


Kendria S h a n a e

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